Another title that just flowed effortlessly out of me. Channeling? Seeing without looking? The same repackaged message as always? Just another way of saying be present, or live in the Now, or there is only Now? Yes, of course, with the caveat that words are only the map and not the territory. All my models […]
Walking across a really crowded Costco parking lot a few days ago I noticed someone smile at me. It was a real smile, a hopeful, kind, no-agenda smile. I instinctively blurted out “you have a great smile”. I’m prone to such things. She slowed down as if processing what I was saying. She replied “thank
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Control is an illusion. Actually, everything is an illusion, but let’s not get ahead of ourselves. I’ve struggled with emotional regulation essentially for as long as I can remember. Somedays (like today) when I am really challenged I start down one of many unhealthy spirals. Sometimes I catch myself and sometimes not. Sometimes friends and
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This is a post about agency. It is also about determination and hope. It began life as an exploration on whether honesty is dead or not but I needed something much lighter and more hopeful today. At this moment I need to cry tears of joy and appreciation and not those of fear. I feel
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There is so much to learn. For a day, or really better yet a lifetime, just observe. Don’t judge, which will help prevent getting angry or feeling entitled or any of those other distracting things. Just observe. What makes me mad? How does my body feel when this or that happens or is said or
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I have been thinking about opportunity costs as a concept a lot over the last several years. I was amazed to find that I can’t find where I have written about it. It is a really powerful camouflaged threat to happiness that many don’t realize. I sure didn’t for most of my life. It may
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Sometimes I read or hear of an idea and it is like a lightning bolt. I can feel the neurons reorganizing; pruning the old rotting branches. I can see the new yellow-green buds forming and popping into life. Yesterday was one of those days. I have been thinking about boundaries all wrong. I suspect we
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I have a monkey brain. It is unruly. It seldom slows down yet alone comes to a rest. I force it daily to do just that. For half my life I have practiced meditation. I have yet to be able to sit for more than a few minutes in a quiet empty presence. This is
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It really is that simple. Let go. I’m not going to look to see if I wrote about this before as I’m nearly positive that I have. But of course, my multi-year outpouring of free life lessons and pitfalls and learnings is about me and you and my daughter and the world in general. It
Sometimes the titles for my posts just leap forward and confidently shout “here I am, pick me!”, like an uninhibited toddler. Other times, like with this post, I write the entire post in my head, likely while I am sleeping or watching South Park, or some other important life activity and then struggle to
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