Control is an illusion. Actually, everything is an illusion, but let’s not get ahead of ourselves. I’ve struggled with emotional regulation essentially for as long as I can remember. Somedays (like today) when I am really challenged I start down one of many unhealthy spirals. Sometimes I catch myself and sometimes not. Sometimes friends and […]
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This is a post about agency. It is also about determination and hope. It began life as an exploration on whether honesty is dead or not but I needed something much lighter and more hopeful today. At this moment I need to cry tears of joy and appreciation and not those of fear. I feel
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If you look at most any problem in the world, poverty, war, genocide, environmental destruction, all the biggies, and the smaller ones playground fights, cheating on tests, the FBS bowl selection committee process (!), they all begin with fear. Fear of not getting our fair share, fear of not having enough to go around, fear
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Lately I am just feeling like a number, a statistic. Feeling like all decisions are being made for me to maximize someone else’s shareholder return (and executive bonuses). My fantastically complicated and sophisticated computer is just fine, it is just that the little screws and hinges and other dumb things are falling apart (when they
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I have been thinking about opportunity costs as a concept a lot over the last several years. I was amazed to find that I can’t find where I have written about it. It is a really powerful camouflaged threat to happiness that many don’t realize. I sure didn’t for most of my life. It may
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Sometimes I read or hear of an idea and it is like a lightning bolt. I can feel the neurons reorganizing; pruning the old rotting branches. I can see the new yellow-green buds forming and popping into life. Yesterday was one of those days. I have been thinking about boundaries all wrong. I suspect we
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Stay with me here. This may sound whiny or “get-off-my-lawn!” a bit, but I promise it isn’t. At least what is in my head right now, what I am going to try hard to get down on this computer isn’t that way. This is a bit of grieving loss, a really important activity to acknowledge
Didn’t I just write about letting go? Am I already back here again? I guess it must be pretty important to me now and likely so for many others in their middle to late mid-life. I remember recently learning of the term decumulation. That is the phase of life I’m entering into. It is a
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I have a monkey brain. It is unruly. It seldom slows down yet alone comes to a rest. I force it daily to do just that. For half my life I have practiced meditation. I have yet to be able to sit for more than a few minutes in a quiet empty presence. This is
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Great taste, no, less filling! Light is both a particle and a wave. We are just machines yet machines are evolving spirituality (and everything is Love). I understand more everyday and less at the same time! I want to live forever but also want to finally close my eyes. Nothing is important yet everything
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